Saturday, June 9, 2012

Just need a break

Asalamu alaikum,

I have been having a really stressful month or so. I really need to just get away from it all for a while and that is just not an option right now.

When I get stressed out, I don't really feel like writing very much. I also don't craft as much either. I am very scattered right now.

So I am going to take a little break from blogging for a while, and see where I am in a couple weeks. InshAllah I'll be back an a while with lots to tell you all, maybe some new sewing tutorials and lots of FO's to show!

 

Friday, June 1, 2012

Friday Feature- Giving too much?

Asalamu alaikum,

I think I inherited it form my mom. We are givers. Givers of love, time, money, energy, help, anything, and everything. If we have it, somebody needs it, and it is possible to give then we do. It seems to be something I can't stop, even when I know that what I am giving/doing is actually hurtful for me(in the end).

Normally I see this as a good thing. It is good to give things, to help people. It makes you feel good.

Tariq is kind of the opposite. He gives help if necessary, but baring charity, makes no preemptive offers of help/giving. He sometimes criticizes me for being "too helpful". For giving myself away too much. He says that people don't appreciate me or the things I do.

Usually I just kind of laugh it off and tell him he is such a pessimist, seeing only negatives in people. Lately though I have been seeing that he might have a good point; he might be very, very right.

Recently someone that I thought I was close to and could trust, has turned into someone that I barely know. Their personality has gone from being basically nice and just a bit arrogant, to someone completely out of control, greedy, with no manners, no sense(common or otherwise), or respect for anyone. It has been very shocking for me.

All of the things I have helped this person with, taught them, done for them, have been thrown back in my face. I never really did anything they now claim, they have done it all by themselves. I was just in the way.

So this has taught me two valuable lessons. One- Tariq was right and I give too much of myself to the wrong people. Two- I should be more selective in who I help and how much. When Tariq suggests that a person does not appreciate me then I will believe him. This is a corollary to another very important life lesson-Listen to my mother. She is wise and almost always right in her advice.