Umm Aaminah's post the other day got me thinking(mashAllah, the sister really gets me thinking a lot!) about manners in general, and the differences between people(Muslim and non-Muslim) in the USA, and other places I've been.
I also miss my masjid back home, there were so many lovely sisters, it felt like a family. There were some times when rudeness/bad manners were there, but overall it was a good environment.
Sometimes people here in Pakistan will tell me how bad Americans/the West/Non-Muslims are. I have bitten my tongue many many times, because the behavior of many Muslims here is worse than most of the non-Muslims that I know. I have seen more racist crap here and in the UAE than I have ever seen in the USA. In Abu Dhabi they are allowed to advertise for people of a specific race/ethnicity/nationality to fill specific positions. Women and men here are often judged on the basis of how fair their skin is, passed over as suitors because they are "too dark", or the wrong "caste"(or tribe) People steal, lie, cheat, bribe, back bite, and a whole host of other things on a daily basis, and then go on to say how Americans have no morals.
This kind of negativity and hypocrisy is just pathetic. We are Muslims, we are suposed to be brothers and sisters of each other. Why are we some of the worst offenders?
In general I have seen more respectful treatment of our fellow human beings in the non-Muslim countries than I have seen in the Muslim countries. Non-Muslims give me more respect, and respect my religious and personal rights more than Muslims in a Muslim county. Why are so many Muslims so bad to each other and to others? It certainly isn't Islam, which promotes good manners and brother/sisterhood.
Sometimes I feel like shouting to people to look at them selves before they complain about the non-Muslims, but then I take my own advice and look at myself and that helps me calm the urge to scream at them. But there are somethings that just go beyond what I can stand, racism and bigotry are the worst. Why can't we all just treat other human beings with a bit of respect and decency?